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Waiting For Everything To Be Fine

When my son was very young and newly diagnosed with Autism, everyone was sure he would be “just fine”.

My concern, as insane as it was, was that maybe by accepting it, I was pushing him towards a future that wasn’t his. I was convinced of it.

It’s an individual situation that sees individual advancements for individuals who have it. There are no generalities.

Even the least cynical person on the planet would have a tough time with this situation.

This isn’t a milestone that works in the form of a soundbite. It requires a backstory and explanation, but it’s truly a major achievement.

It’s part of parenting and doesn’t stop because my child has Autism.

So what should you say? Well, to me there was only one statement that always fits…

Please don’t tell my wife and daughter, but on a day-to-day basis, my son is usually the easiest one in the house to handle.

I don’t know what anyone’s life is truly like when they close the door at night. Neither do you.

Whether someone can respond in the traditional sense or not, it doesn’t affect the vital role that the people who love them play in their lives.