For many, my son having "special needs" means focusing on the things he can't do. It overshadows many of the powerful things he can.
Will there be overwhelming events for my non-verbal son? Sure. Will there be judgmental people? Definitely. Are they the norm and do they define who we are or what we do? Not at all.
Every family has their own language. It's made up of words or phrases that no one else would understand. Every person contributes. Every person speaks it.
I know there are things that he doesn't get about my world. There are things about his world that I don't get. The things we do both understand, though, are special.